My name is Bob Rollins. Who or what am I? I'm damned if I know. I'm nobody, everyone, Everyman, who knows, just someone with too much time on my hands and nothing better to do. I'm just writing down my opinions on various subjects that seem to draw a lot of my attention and opinions being like ass holes, everyone has one, even me! So I want to give you mine! My opinion that is!
I'm no expert, thought I have had a bit of experience and I do know what I want.
I see so many men and women getting divorces and wondering why and I've had my share too. But I've had a great deal of time to consider the problems.
Two people meet, fall in lust, love and want to make it "Permanent" and get married! Ahhh, well. But they never really keep track of what they did to get to that end and as soon as the Wedding and Honeymoon is over, "So's the marriage. The problem(?), they stop doing everything they did before the Clergy said I now pronounce you man and wife!
I've actually heard women talking among themselves and saying "if he thinks I'm going to keep doing that for him for the rest of our lives, he's crazy" and things all seem to go down hill from there!The same is true, of course, for the men!
When they first met, and continued to meet, they both put on a front, getting all fixed up, men taking a shower, shaving, brushing his teeth, wearing clean clothes and all that and pretty much the same for the women.
It's alright, if after the ceremonies are over if some things relax, but those things that really matter, like sexual habits, some amount of grooming and all should continue. One of the biggest hangups is physical shape. Those men who married their Dream Girl, don't want to see her turn into MOMMA CASS ELLIOT right in front of them and the woman who married RAMBO don't want to see him turn into JOE BLACK or JOHN CANDY! I mean, if you did want a LARGE PERSON, so be it, but generally, what you MARRIED is what you want 30 years later if possible. Of course, there are extenuating reason for change, medical and others, but even that doesn't seem to make much difference, when you change from the expected, it will all go away. It doesn't matter what some silly Family Councilor will tell you, they can't change his Idea of how you should be vs. how you are or the other way around and one of you will start looking for that first Dream person again!
So, what ever you did for each other before you get HITCHED, you better just try to keep doing FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIVES if you want it to work! Don't sack out on the Sofa eating Chocolates and expect him to keep coming home and Don't sit around on the couch drinking beer and watching the TUBE and expect her to keep being your Dream Girl! It ain't gonna happen!
'Course, that's just my Opinion!
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